I want to be part of your life.
I want to be part of my grand-daughter’s life.
I want to have regular contact and communication with each of you.
I want to be considered, included, and important in your lives.
I want to be cared for the same as any other family member.
I want to be allowed to care for and be around each of you.
I feel unloved and unwanted.
I feel as if you do not want me to be part of your life.
I feel as if you only want me around when I can receive offloading of your emotions.
I feel as if you do not trust my love of and for you.
I feel as if you do not trust my love of and for my grand-daughters.
I feel as if you are unwilling to fully discuss and resolve our issues.
I feel as if you are unwilling to accept my feelings.
I feel as if you are unwilling to accept my love.
I feel exhausted from trying to get through to you.
I feel as if you will never change on any of this.
I feel as if I do not and never will matter to you.
I feel as if I have been foolish to center my life around you.
I feel as if I have lost important meaning in my life.
I feel sad and depressed about being unable to improve this.
I feel as if you have taken our two years apart and made of it a life-long resentment and rejection.
I feel as if you ignore that you’ve cut me out for 21 years.
I feel as if you have been unreasonably punitive about something I had no other choice about.
I feel as if you do not want to really reconcile because it means balancing our perspectives and you still need to blame me.
I feel you are in denial about your anger and resentment; you hide them from me.
I feel as if your husband is intentionally keeping me out of your life.
I feel as if your husband treats your being as ‘belonging’ to him.
I feel as if your husband is empowered in this by your avoidance and rejection of me.
I feel as if you, as a couple, are rejecting me unreasonably.
I feel that you have deliberately concentrated your power against me in this relationship.
I feel stuck.
I feel my only option is to remove even the concept of you from my life.
I feel uncertain I can manage it.
I resent that you allowed Zettys access and closeness that you persistently refuse/refused to me.
I resent that you refuse to acknowledge that I love you.
I resent that you never choose me as I have always chosen you.
I resent that you are not willing to consider my crisis with compassion.
I resent that you refuse to give me succor and aid when I have always, freely offered both to you.
I resent that you seem to have no empathy in relation to me.
I resent that you have broken important promises about family therapy and a commitment to work on this with me.
I resent that you truly seem not to care for, about, or what happens to me.
I have withdrawn permanently because of all of the above.
I am in crisis and pain and, as usual, you do not care.
I no longer believe there is any way for me to positively advance this relationship.
I no longer believe that you even want to positively advance this relationship.
I am tired of hurting and crying and missing you.