For the record – you were not abandoned. This is what being abandoned is like: https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-feel-like-to-be-abandoned-by-your-mother Also, you were not emotionally neglected. This is what emotional neglect is like: https://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/emoionally-absent-mother You were wanted. You were cared for. You were loved. Significant effort, care, and time were devoted to you from the day of your birth right up until February 15th of 2018. Was I perfect? Far from it. Did I get it right, all the time? Hardly. Was there room for improvement, learning, and compromise? Always. Did I ever tell you I was sorry I had you… or that I […]
My almost family; my almost mother
The hardest part for me was sitting there, driving you back from Yelm to the airport; I was listening as you told me all the many ways that the entire time you were at [children’s home], all you ever really wanted was something else, somewhere else; that you were only there because David wanted it. It was an unexpected clarity, to be sure; but it was also a very painful thing for me to hear. You see, all those years that you weren’t wanting to be there? You were my newest and best mother; the mother I never had, the […]