it surprises me how so many of the people i know here, online, assume they know so much more about me than they actually do. they often assume because i do not talk about a thing, it doesn’t exist.

beautiful poem by Thich Nhat Hanh.

pre-coffee thoughts.

sometimes i am surprised how judgmental people are. i am not sure why i am surprised.

voice of experience, alas, not all of it past.

people who use what they know of your skeletons to condemn you are not friends. people who care for you do not do this. people who expect you to take swings for them, but cut you off the first time you do it are not friends. people who care for you do not do this. people who justify their cruelties but condemn yours are not friends. people who care for you do not do this. i will remember this.

today’s ‘instant karma’ card is oddly comforting, for all it’s imagery is damn well disturbing. i suppose they make them that way on purpose.

dedicated to the married men who remain so largely due to my efforts. 1991 to 2007, and i am done. best wishes to you all. Dagan S. of California Rick F. of Texas Mark G. of Alaska Derek M. of Florida Randall S. of Georgia Daniel W. of Arizona Kevin B. of Missouri Rick A. of Ohio Robbie C. of Florida Ray A. of Canada Robert F. of New York Wendell T. of Georgia Craig G. of North Carolina Andrew L. of Texas

one of the annoyances of going to bed early is the inevitable early waking.

i’m working on letting whatever is, be. sometimes that means snarling. this is one of those times.