archival – about love

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i wrote this ‘off the cuff’ over at my myspace page and realized i had not captured it for ‘posterity’ here. heh. so here it is.

You know that old saying about love and setting something free? It goes, “If you love something, set if free, if it is meant to be, it will return to you.”

It’s wrong.

If you love something, you already admit and accept that it’s free and you love it because it is so, not because you managed to cage it or tie it to your damned ankle.

Love isn’t how well something is bound to you. It’s how well you manage caring for anything or anyone who is not bound to you.

If you can only love with conditions or bonds, you don’t really know love at all.

Until you can love someone who hates you, you don’t know what love really is.

Until you can love someone who doesn’t know you, you don’t know what love really is.

Until you can love someone when there’s nothing whatever in it for you, you don’t know what love really is.

Love isn’t about how you feel inside. Love is about how or if you can create the feeling of being loved in others. To love someone is to help them to their highest being, their best, their most content.

If you’re still stuck thinking of love as ‘something you get’, you’re missing a lot, among the least of which is the point.

Yeshes